When one holds the "Mrs"

Malay & Filipino Celebration

Photography by Kameradansa

Traditionally we evolve towards compiling a "we" title as an individual. Humans procreate, expand and eventually duplicate in the short life span that we have. It was indeed a special response when Ajie and I tied the knot last week. Marking a 10 year commitment and 5 year long engagement that could tickle a funny bone if we could replay what life was when we decided to spontaneously track a bonding relationship.

I could simply laugh at the sight of what I would commonly say in the past, denying the "old" me which was portraying this strong young women who was against "sentimental" notions and predicted paths. It was never planned to be very fortunate to engage in such a wonderful friendship and relationship with my life partner at a young age and at the same time, we rocked the core beliefs of our Asian tradition by engaging in a long engagement. This culturally, forms disappointment towards the elders. I think we always try to control the destiny that is ahead of us. Yet once in a while, the wild card appears and before your eyes you have created the garden of Eden for two and the appropriate foundation of what could be the best adventure of your life.

Swearing that this blog would not turn into an emotional Dr Phil coaching blog. I have crossed out what I wrote last night, to conclude that these factors are merely pointers in which one could address when wanting to know the basic etiquette of 1 + 1 .

So, I found that indeed it is not about the time that reads a successful relationship but very basic etiquette's that socially needs to exist for one another.

Communication // Both partners could sing a different tune but if one could compromise to listen and change the channel for one another that is teamwork. Playing the same momentum you would for your best friend and naturally applying it towards the relationship, the recipe for success!

Patience // By virtue, this is the key. Patience to learn, Patience to respect and Patience to love. 

Affection // Adoration towards each other should be the common ground. The tone, the admiration to gently publicize affections by words is effective. Immediately the aura of two bodies change to tune in together.

Generosity // My favorite segment of the equation. There is nothing worse to have a partner who is selfish , there always needs to be the harmony of openly wanting to help each other. 

Surprise // How very disappointing if men think that women do not require date nights. Every relationship whether old or new , should always have room for uncalled or planned dates. This is where you bond in different scenarios and environments. This is where you learn to dislike and like , whether to improve or create a habit. 

A tradition is a belief or behavior passed down within a group or society with symbolic meaning or special significance with origins in the past.^[1][2] Common examples include holidays or impractical but socially meaningful clothes (like lawyer wigs or military officer spurs), but the idea has also been applied to social norms such as greetings. Traditions can persist and evolve for thousands of years—the word "tradition" itself derives from the Latin tradere or traderer literally meaning to transmit, to hand over, to give for safekeeping. While it is commonly assumed that traditions have ancient history, many traditions have been invented on purpose, whether that be political or cultural, over short periods of time. Certain scholarly fields, such as anthropology and biology, have adapted the term "tradition," defining it more precisely than its conventional use in order to facilitate scholarly discourse.

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